My Story
June 03, 2025
I grew up with parents who made family meals a priority. We ate together, whoever was home. We wanted to be home at meal times because my parents are both wonderful cooks. My dad has always had a passion for gardening and made sure we were a part of it, whether we wanted to be or not. My mom taught us how to plan a menu, shop, and cook on a budget…there were 9 of us!
We ate well balanced meals, much of which were made from scratch. Cold cereal and store bought bread were a treat that we didn’t have often. (I was a little jealous of my friends with that soft Wonder Bread that could be squished into a ball and eaten like a marshmallow in one bite). Whole grains, beans, home canned fruits and garden vegetables were the majority of what we ate, with meat usually being served in smaller portions in casseroles or soups to make it go further.
I was responsible for making the bread in the summer and usually the salads during the school year while my mom taught piano. When we came home from school, mom would usually have a snack out for us. Often something home-made, which we would eat while we would talk about our day and watch her finish preparations for dinner. That is where I learned how to cook, by watching her do it and dad helping when he needed after he arrived home from work.
Dinner time was a time to discuss what we learned or experienced in the day and just be together. It brought a sense of stability we could count on. My dad always told us to “slow down” and remember how long it took to prepare. We were expected to have “Tanners manners”, although there was still some silliness and laughter at the table. Food was an important part of our gatherings and celebrations. It was made with love.
As a young adult starting college, making a balanced meal seemed like the natural thing to do. Spaghetti with red sauce, a little bit of turkey burger and a side of cabbage anyone? Don’t forget the burnt garlic toast…that’s how I won over my husband. When I was first married, I was excited to carry on that food culture, but I also recognized the importance of nutrition. I think that started as a teen when I was the one asking for carrots amongst all the junk food at birthday parties. Weird, I know! I noticed how good foods made me feel better. I loved baking, but tried to make cookies healthier by subbing applesauce for some of the butter.
Time went on and I continued to use fruits and veggies in every meal, incorporated beans where possible, but with kids, the dairy began to take over. It was easy to please my toddlers with a quesadilla every day or a cheese stick for a snack. It seemed to be healthy, with baby carrots and apple slices to the side of course. Boxed mac and cheese, turkey sandwiches with lettuce on home-made bread. I thought we were doing it well, until I noticed some of our kids were complaining of stomach aches a lot. My husband wasn’t feeling great, and both of us struggled with migraines frequently. We felt there were changes we could make, but didn’t know where to start.
Our journey to better health and increased knowledge began with a book found at the library that made us realize we had known what to do all along, we just needed a reminder. A 30 day experiment, hesitantly agreed upon by our kids, to change a few of our eating habits, including ditching dairy as a family and we couldn’t argue with the results. I wasn’t going to cook separate meals for everyone. It had to be a family effort. We loved the way we were feeling, less headaches, stomach aches and a lightness after meals just after 3 weeks of small changes.
Years later, we have witnessed friends and family falling into chronic disease, much of what can be prevented through diet and lifestyle changes. Through our trial and error in helping our family feel better, I am on a mission to help others with their goals to better health. It is exciting to see what health transformations can be made, starting in the kitchen, one plate at a time.
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When you think of picky eating, your mind probably goes straight to the food. But let me ask you this: why do so many emotions come up when you see your child not eating what you’ve provided? What are you afraid of in that moment? And how do those feelings show up at the table?
Food jags are completely normal in early childhood. Most kids go through them. But when your child consistently eats only a handful of foods—or keeps dropping foods they used to like—that’s when we, as parents, start to worry.
We know there can be long-term consequences when kids don’t eat a wide variety of foods:
- nutrient deficiencies
- digestive issues
- higher chronic disease risk
- energy and performance dips
- food anxiety
- loss of confidence
- increased stress response
- reduced body trust
- strain in relationships
You get the picture. No wonder you’re looking for answers on what to do with your picky eater.
When I work with parents of picky eaters, I see two very common patterns.
The first is pressure around food. This can come from many places—time, money, and effort spent making the meal, or fear and mistrust around the foods our kids would choose if left to their own devices.
Even something as simple as “just try one bite” can feel like too much pressure for certain kids. It really depends on their personality. Some kids are pleasers and will do almost anything to make you happy. Others? If you say one thing, they immediately want to do the opposite.
Then there are kids who are more anxious. When they sense stress around food, they become stressed and go straight into fight-or-flight. Food no longer feels safe. Maybe you’ve seen this at your table?
I sure have. I had one kid where the moment I mentioned trying something he was already unsure about, he shut down completely. He couldn’t hear anything else I said—and boom, peaceful meal ruined for everyone.
You might feel like a little encouragement is helpful. After all, we’re supposed to teach our kids, right? I agree—to an extent. But we have to be incredibly aware of how we are feeling, and how that comes across to our specific child.
Kids are amazing learners. They are born knowing what hunger feels like and what fullness feels like. When we pressure them, we teach them to doubt their own body cues.
And because they’re human (just like us), they may push back. I know I do! Kids really only have control over a few things: sleep, the bathroom, and eating. At some point, they’re going to test boundaries there.
Now maybe you’re on the other end of the spectrum. You’re pretty relaxed and don’t care much about what your kids eat. They aren’t pushing back, meals feel easy, and everyone seems happy. But often that means they are making most of the choices—not you.
Autonomy is wonderful. But timing is everything.
You wouldn’t hand your kid the car keys before they understand responsibility and danger—or without practice—would you?
Feeding your kids is no different.
Kids know when they’re hungry or full, and they know what they like. What they don’t understand yet is how the foods they eat support their health and well-being.
The food industry is very good at getting kids excited about packaged foods. So… do we let that industry decide our kids’ nutrition? Who’s in charge here?
You are.
We know (or can learn) which foods nourish our kids’ bodies and which ones don’t. Kids are learning so much every day. They’re new to their bodies and to the world.
Think about how you respond when you’re overwhelmed with choices. You either go with what’s easiest—or you shut down. Our kids are no different.
It’s our job to create an eating structure that supports them in making good choices—from the choices we provide.
When kids have structure, they feel safe. And when they feel safe, they’re more willing to move forward—even when foods are unfamiliar or a little scary. Over time, they learn to trust the process.
So here’s what might be happening in your home:
- Too much pressure at mealtimes is creating stress and frustration.
- Or, too many choices are overwhelming your child, leading them to choose what’s easiest—or nothing at all.
Both are incredibly common. You are not alone. And it is not your fault. I’ve been there too. I wish someone had helped me understand why mealtimes felt so stressful.
The good news? There is a way to help kids move past picky eating. You don’t need to become a professional chef or a nutrition expert (though that can be fun too). What really needs to change is the approach to feeding.
So—what do you think is happening in your house? I’d love to hear.
When you think of picky eating, your mind probably goes straight to the food. But let me ask you this: why do so many emotions come up when you see your child not eating what you’ve provided? What are you afraid of in that moment? And how do those feelings show up at the table?
Food jags are completely normal in early childhood. Most kids go through them. But when your child consistently eats only a handful of foods—or keeps dropping foods they used to like—that’s when we, as parents, start to worry.
We know there can be long-term consequences when kids don’t eat a wide variety of foods:
- nutrient deficiencies
- digestive issues
- higher chronic disease risk
- energy and performance dips
- food anxiety
- loss of confidence
- increased stress response
- reduced body trust
- strain in relationships
You get the picture. No wonder you’re looking for answers on what to do with your picky eater.
When I work with parents of picky eaters, I see two very common patterns.
The first is pressure around food. This can come from many places—time, money, and effort spent making the meal, or fear and mistrust around the foods our kids would choose if left to their own devices.
Even something as simple as “just try one bite” can feel like too much pressure for certain kids. It really depends on their personality. Some kids are pleasers and will do almost anything to make you happy. Others? If you say one thing, they immediately want to do the opposite.
Then there are kids who are more anxious. When they sense stress around food, they become stressed and go straight into fight-or-flight. Food no longer feels safe. Maybe you’ve seen this at your table?
I sure have. I had one kid where the moment I mentioned trying something he was already unsure about, he shut down completely. He couldn’t hear anything else I said—and boom, peaceful meal ruined for everyone.
You might feel like a little encouragement is helpful. After all, we’re supposed to teach our kids, right? I agree—to an extent. But we have to be incredibly aware of how we are feeling, and how that comes across to our specific child.
Kids are amazing learners. They are born knowing what hunger feels like and what fullness feels like. When we pressure them, we teach them to doubt their own body cues.
And because they’re human (just like us), they may push back. I know I do! Kids really only have control over a few things: sleep, the bathroom, and eating. At some point, they’re going to test boundaries there.
Now maybe you’re on the other end of the spectrum. You’re pretty relaxed and don’t care much about what your kids eat. They aren’t pushing back, meals feel easy, and everyone seems happy. But often that means they are making most of the choices—not you.
Autonomy is wonderful. But timing is everything.
You wouldn’t hand your kid the car keys before they understand responsibility and danger—or without practice—would you?
Feeding your kids is no different.
Kids know when they’re hungry or full, and they know what they like. What they don’t understand yet is how the foods they eat support their health and well-being.
The food industry is very good at getting kids excited about packaged foods. So… do we let that industry decide our kids’ nutrition? Who’s in charge here?
You are.
We know (or can learn) which foods nourish our kids’ bodies and which ones don’t. Kids are learning so much every day. They’re new to their bodies and to the world.
Think about how you respond when you’re overwhelmed with choices. You either go with what’s easiest—or you shut down. Our kids are no different.
It’s our job to create an eating structure that supports them in making good choices—from the choices we provide.
When kids have structure, they feel safe. And when they feel safe, they’re more willing to move forward—even when foods are unfamiliar or a little scary. Over time, they learn to trust the process.
So here’s what might be happening in your home:
- Too much pressure at mealtimes is creating stress and frustration.
- Or, too many choices are overwhelming your child, leading them to choose what’s easiest—or nothing at all.
Both are incredibly common. You are not alone. And it is not your fault. I’ve been there too. I wish someone had helped me understand why mealtimes felt so stressful.
The good news? There is a way to help kids move past picky eating. You don’t need to become a professional chef or a nutrition expert (though that can be fun too). What really needs to change is the approach to feeding.
So—what do you think is happening in your house? I’d love to hear.
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